Seductress:
Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love
By Betsy Prioleau Ph.D.'80.
Viking Press, 2003. 384 pages.
$24.95.
Women who are not conventionally attractive--that is to say, women
who, in coarser times, might have been termed "ugly"--will
be heartened by Betsy Prioleau's Seductress: Women Who Ravished
the World and Their Lost Art of Love. The same goes for brainy
women, pushy women, artistic women, and old women. A writer and
erstwhile associate professor of English and world literature at
Manhattan College, Prioleau argues that seduction is "99 percent
mental sorcery," and is achieved through a carefully orchestrated
sequence of emotional opposites: "quiescence and ecstasy,
intimacy and distance, pleasure and pain." Contrary to popular
belief, its most accomplished practitioners have not been dim,
passive, ultra-feminine, and pretty. Rather, they have been smart,
active, androgynous, and often "homely."
The driving force behind seduction, Prioleau says, is the seductress
archetype, a mythic figure "incised in the human collective
unconscious and resistant to change, despite fluctuations in sexual
tastes and mores." This archetype established itself very
early in human history, during the 25,000 years in which our forebears
channeled their religious impulses into goddess cults. Stone-age
Venus figures, the snake goddesses of Crete, the Babylonian goddess
Ishtar, and the Greek goddess Aphrodite are all incarnations of
this archetype. And when a real-life seductress has her way with
a man, it is often because the man is beguiled by the ancient archetypal
figure embodied in the living woman.
Although the idea for this book, Prioleau says, came out of a college
course on the "Seductress in Fiction," it is not a fusty
work of scholarship. She has positioned it as a how-to for aspiring
mantraps, less crude than, say, The Rules, but informed by a similar
ethos. For those who want "beaux at their bidding and the
upper hand in sex," she counsels, the "know-how is there
for the taking." You just have to analyze the female masters'
methods.
Prioleau is a funny writer and a thorough researcher, and I enjoyed
her deft recounting of these exemplars' lives. She divides her
seductresses into six categories: "Belles Laides" (homely
sirens), "Silver Foxes" (old sirens), "Machweiber" (sirens
in politics), scholar-sirens, siren-artists, and siren-adventurers.
I was most impressed by the Belles Laides, who, despite frightful
looks, managed to rack up admirable conquests without assistance
from a plastic surgeon. These notables include American philanthropist
Isabella Stewart Gardener (with her "fisted-up simian face"),
Second Empire courtesan La Pavia ("thick waisted and grim
visaged), and early-twentieth-century French writer Colette (who "barreled
around Paris in Grecian sandals like Hagar the Horrible with a
bad perm").
For Prioleau, seduction is about power, of which women, despite
feminist breakthroughs, still don't have enough. Men, she points
out, continue to "hold the whip hand: They have numbers on
their side (48 percent women to 43 percent men nationwide); they
age better and cling like crotch crabs to their historic prerogatives
of the initiative, double standard, promiscuity, mate trade-ins,
domination, and domestic copouts."
Seduction, however, is a way to even the score; it "riles
and dismantles patriarchal domination." In the thrall of seductresses,
men can be made to do stupid things--such as, in the case of the
Duke of Windsor, abdicating one's throne for the cunning likes
of Wallis Simpson. Often, men do even worse things when a seductress
jilts them. Ernest Hemingway, for example, never recovered from
being ditched by the sexually voracious, scholar-siren Martha Gellhorn. "He
stalked and harassed her throughout Europe, once hysterically breaking
into her bedroom with a bucket on his head," Prioleau writes.
Prioleau has no patience with vamps who allow themselves to be
mistreated by the men they have seduced. She calls such women "pseudoseductresses," and
has pointedly excluded them from her book. They include "the
eaten and colonized Marilyn Monroe, the oft-dumped flunky Pamela
Harriman, and such gofers to male geniuses as Alma Mahler."
Despite the cleverness of Prioleau's prose, and her positioning
of the seductress as a figure of strength, her thesis was irksome.
It was difficult to get beyond certain retrograde assumptions that
she brought to her writing. She takes for granted that the whole
world is heterosexual and that heterosexual liaisons come about
through feminine conniving. Men who don't respond to feminine wiles
are somehow lesser; she calls them "siren-resistant, cryptogay,
or scared." She also shrugs off the bisexuality of some seductresses
because the only relationships that matter are those between men
and women. Colette's significant six-year relationship with the
Marquise de Belboeuf (known as Missy), for example, is not mentioned
in the book; Prioleau dismisses it as an episode during which the
French writer "experimented sexually and bisexually."
Yet if one isn't offended by Prioleau's thesis--and doesn't mind
that her subjects' lives are cut to fit that thesis--the book can
be a lively read. And for aspiring manslayers, it will also be
a source, no doubt, for some useful techniques.
--M.G.
Lord
Lord, author of Forever Barbie, is completing a family memoir
about aerospace culture during the Cold War.
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The
Uses of Imperfection
By Ted McMahon M.D.'72.
Cat 'n' Dog Productions, 2003. 64 pages.
$14, paper.
Ted McMahon has been a physician since he graduated from Duke's
medical school. He's been a poet nearly as long, but The Uses of
Imperfection is only his second published book of verse. It explores
the universality of suffering, which, he points out in an interview,
is one of the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism, a subject in which
he has a burgeoning interest. The book chronicles the poet's own
growth from early intolerance and unrealistic expectations to open-eyed
grappling with failure, loss, suffering, and death. These poems
spring from injuries and from loves that bring pain along with
delight. McMahon, the wounded healer, shows his passionate desire
to tend hurt bodies and aching spirits, and he shows loveliness
beyond perfection.
The title poem of the book, a cleverly stylized Petrarchan sonnet,
depicts the sculptor Auguste Rodin's having "had it/ up to
here with nymphs, smooth-limbed cherubs/ the mind-numbing symmetries
of the Salon." He chooses to sculpt the janitor instead of
sylphs: "the shaggy head of Bibi, with its broken nose," a
person "shambling like a bear with a broom, punch-drunk/,
prematurely gray."
In "Perfection," McMahon writes that he, too, wearies
of anything that has to "be maintained/ at absolute zero/
in a perfect vacuum/ beneath an indifferent moon." Perfection
grows tired of itself and "arrives/ back home disguised/in
a sleeveless undershirt/ driving a rented convertible." McMahon
chooses to make his art from models like Rodin's. For instance, "Pont
d'Alma RER" portrays a man with Tourette's syndrome. Children
stare at him when he "begins explosive expletives/ in French
into his fisted hand." The poem's speaker explains, kindly,
to his children, "Boys, it's a man who has a hard time/ controlling
himself." He doesn't stop at kindness, though, but continues, "sotto
voce/ Hey, buddy, wait up! Wait for me!" This father admits
that he, too, has a hard time controlling his own actions. McMahon
and the speaker, his near relative, accept the man's affliction--and
their own.
The poet-physician (McMahon is clinical professor of pediatrics
at the University of Washington) writes frankly about the beginning
and end of human lives without embarrassment, sentimentality, or
apology. In "Refusing Amniocentesis," he describes a
birth: "blue/ and slippery as a fish your child/ twists into
sight," an image as beautiful as it is unblinking.
"Silver Fork, American River" uses the image of a fish
in a much different context: A woman tells how she embraces the drowned
body of her friend, though others have warned her that "The
river will have done/ its work on him. And the fish." She grasps
the corpse, which has come free of the ropes intended to pull him
ashore: "Cradled in my arms, how does he look?/ I do not care.
I stroke/ his hair, tenderly caress the forehead/ with its tiny bruise." The
woman notices only a tiny bruise--an apparently insignificant mark
on this mangled and decayed body--thus signifying her all-embracing
and unselfconscious love.
In a later poem, a group of dead bodies have lost their identities.
Undifferentiated limbs, "still pink and glistening," lie
buried together, and the rescue workers dig them out of the September
11 rubble. The dead are as slippery as the baby in "Amniocentesis," but
their "glistening" signifies decay. This poem, "After
the Fall," is a modified Shakespearean sonnet, and its classic,
almost architectural structure creates a fragile bastion. From
its tower the shell-shocked survivors--all of us who remember that
fall--can survey the carnage. Some, McMahon says, will choose to "cultivate
their bitterness"; others will "refuse, and relax into
resignation. Will subsist." All "know that eventually
there will be/ tomatoes," that is to say, a return to ordinary
pleasures. But, still, each must realize that these quotidian comforts
that signal that all is well are imperfect safeguards against further
unexpected catastrophe. Pretending that this September will be
perfect, as past Septembers have seemed to be, comforts but provides
no effective talisman against sudden death or destruction.
Suffering may bring resignation to some, but pain, McMahon claims
in "Just Desserts," is integral to art. This ars poetica
asks that "at the conclusion/ of each banquet honoring/ poets,
that after the speeches/ and the chocolate mousse,/ small shards
of flint/ be stealthily placed/ in the winners' shoes." Poets'
work can heal only when they share their pain with their readers.
How, then, can a doctor be a poet? Patients generally expect perfection
from doctors who, in turn, often believe themselves to function
on a higher plane than the patients who have to undergo painful
and risky treatment. Surely pediatricians such as McMahon must
be infallible, since they hold the fates of our children. Everyone
knows that these scary diagnosticians live differently, perhaps
better, than most of us; they're arrogantly safe in their scientific
priesthood.
But McMahon reaches across the divide in his brilliant "Circumcision." This
naked, aching poem shows a hurried doctor accidentally inject a
baby's penis with epinephrine, a drug that constricts the blood
vessels. He meant to use a painkiller before cutting the foreskin,
and now, on a Sunday when it's hard to summon assistance, the healthy
baby could lose his penis altogether. The doctor cries, "God!
Is this/ what patients feel/ when I enter a room/ to deliver bad
news?"
The final remedy for human pain is love, McMahon avers. He describes
two elderly lovers, both of them poets, in "December and May." Despite
the uncertain efficacy of any fortress or of any ritual--"Who
has smeared our lintels/ with blood?"--they have come to each
other late in life. They "grasp/ each offered cup and drink
with gratitude/its full measure." They "caress each other
with words/ as if naming fears could banish them." As fragile
as poems or cups or lives, their love holds the audience "quiet
on the edges of" their seats. These lovers have survived and
momentarily found bliss--an image profoundly healing.
McMahon manipulates language with tenderness and skill, seeking
enlightenment through compassion for those he meets, both as a
doctor and as a poet. He says, in "Dakota Bodhisattva": "I'd
settle to have sparked/ a single flash of joy, to have erased/
a single line of sorrow." In these fine poems, he does exactly
that.
--Cecile Gray
Gray is a poet who has published
work in a number of magazines and journals, including The Southern
Review. She directs the creative-writing program at Huntingdon
College in Alabama. She has reviewed collections of poetry for
The Journal at Ohio State University and published essays on contemporary
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